Hi, guys, today’s topic is anal play because I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately. In fact, I’ve been thinking about it so much that I wrote a post on my other blog, Mistress After Hours about my first anal play experience(s). I was inspired to write to post after a conversation we had over on Femdom Fridays about anal in general.

I know a large number of people like playing around with anal stuff. And there are so many ways to enjoy it, too, from gentle rubbing to full-on penetration. There’s never a shortage of anal fun around here!

Your Mistress’s First Anal Experience

If you’d like to hear the story of my first anal play experience(s), please go check out the post on Mistress After Hours. If you don’t have time to do that right now, I’ll give you a brief rundown. My very first anal play experience was with a lover’s thumb. Before that, I was very against the idea of anal. I was open-minded in most areas pertaining to sex, but not that one. I simply was not interested at all.

So for all this talk that we Mistresses often do about anal play, what if you’re like I used to be–just not interested? Well, I’m here to tell you that that’s okay. Many people enjoying playing with their asses, but many also do not. There’s nothing wrong with that being one of your limits.

(No matter what anyone tells you, it’s not unsubmissive to have limits. Everyone is entitled to them, whether they’re a Dom/me, a sub, or a switch. If anal is one of your limits, so be it. Don’t ever let anyone tell you differently!)

What To Do If Your Body Refuses Anal Play

On the other hand, what if you are interested in anal play, but your body doesn’t want to cooperate? Maybe you like the idea of it, but your ass refuses to let you do it. What to do then?

In my experience, sometimes, you can get your body to come around. Mine, for example, learned to like it eventually. But if you can’t get past a physical barrier, you can always work around it. For instance, if you can’t manage actual penetration, maybe some teasing around the area would work for you? You could try a finger just stroking you or a vibrator just held against it (not inserted). Maybe even spanking on your butt cheeks is enough stimulation of that area for you.

If It’s Not Your Thing, That’s Okay

Whether you like anal play or not is not a huge deal. If you do enjoy it, fantastic! We can always engage in it any time you like. But if you don’t like it or if your body doesn’t allow it, that’s also just fine. You’re not necessarily missing out on anything. And I certainly don’t require it of my subs. (Though some strap on play and other types of anal play can surely be exciting.)

Other things can be equally exciting, though. So if you can’t or don’t want to engage in it, you can have the same amount of fun doing something totally different.

What are your thoughts on the subject? Love it, hate it, indifferent to it? Maybe you were like me and initially against it, but learned to enjoy it. I’d love to hear what you think. Leave me a comment or give me a call to discuss it further. I always like hearing what you feel about the different topics I blog about. So do let me know, and I’ll talk to you soon!

Until next time!

Hugs,

Ms Kay Marie