Hi, everyone, especially those of you who love Femdom phone sex, which, I imagine, is the large majority of you guys! Let me first of all wish each and every one of you a very Happy New Year before I launch into today’s post. I hope 2026 treats all of you very well, much better than 2025 did!
I also wanted to say that I think I would like to start the New Year off with some back to basics type of stuff. Actually, I started doing this on my other site, Mistress After Hours, with a post about JOI phone sex. So I thought I’d do it on this site as well. The beginning of a new year is a great time to go back and brush up on some things we may need refreshers on, right?
Now We Can Talk About Femdom Phone Sex
Okay, now we can talk about Femdom phone sex, lol. You may have noticed I’ve done a little sprucing up on my site lately and will likely continue to do more in the future. One of the things I did was add a Specialties page to this site. (Please check it out if you feel so inclined.) I also added a new About page, which you’re also welcome to take a look at.
Anyway, in writing the new About page, I started thinking about Femdom phone sex and what it means to people. A lot of folks out there have a very set idea of what Femdom Mistress is. And that’s okay when you’re just playing around in your own head. But when you step into the real world of Femdom phone sex, your ideas may take a bit of a hit.
Most Mistresses Are Not A Porn Stereotype
Why, you ask? Because many (or even most) of us don’t necessarily fit the stereotype. You know, the stereotype of the leather-clad, stilleto-shod, corset-wearing, whip-wielding Mistress? Yeah, I’m sorry to shatter your illusions if you haven’t realized this yet, but that’s not most of us. And it’s especially not me!
To me, that sort of overly strict, overly domineering Mistress who yells at you and demands things is sort of…well, boring. Someone with that demeanor just seems like they’d be a very unhappy person and quite miserable to be around, long-term. And you guys already know that I’m usually a very happy person and am a big ball of fun to spend time with. So that stereotype does not reflect reality for me at all.
I’m here to have fun, number one, and to help fulfill mutual fantasies with submissive men. If I pretended to be that whip-wielding person, I wouldn’t be authentic. I wouldn’t be being true to myself. And if you’ve spoken with me before, you know that being me during my Femdom phone sex calls is rather important to me. So that’s why I don’t bother pretending. I just am who I am.
So Who Are You, Mistress?
Of course, that begs the question, who am I as a Mistress? And it’s a fair one, so I’m happy to answer.
For me, I’m the same person within a D/s relationship as I am outside of one. I’m as real as I can possibly be, lol. It comes natural to me to take control and arrange the world around me to my liking. So that’s why I’ve chosen Femdom phone sex sessions over regular ones. I enjoy being in control. I enjoy being a leader. It’s fun for me to help others become better versions of themselves. I find it to be a worthwhile challenge for my abilities.
I don’t believe in the trappings of Femdom BS. My opinion is, I can be just as dominant and effective in athleisure outfits as I can in latex. In fact, I think I’d be uncomfortable in latex and, therefore, not as effective as a Domme. I like being comfortable in the aforementioned athleisure, or sweaters and jeans, or even sundresses when it’s warm. Those things make me happy, and I love dominating men while wearing them, lol.
What Are Your Thoughts On Domination?
But of course, dominance isn’t just about what you wear. It’s a whole mindset. The submissive mindset is (or should be) concentrated on service, surrender, and devotion. The dominant mindset should be concentrated on leadership, balanced and well-informed decision-making, and concern for one’s submissive. These two things work in harmony to create the perfect Femdom phone sex call.
So what are your thoughts on the subject? Do you crave a leather-clad Dominatrix? Or do you prefer someone who forges her own path of dominance? There is no wrong answer here, by the way. It all depends on your frame of mind. So feel free to share what you think about Femdom phone sex in the comments! And as always, if you’d like to talk about it more, just give me a ring.
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
