Ms Kay Marie
Hi Everyone! Hope this finds you all well midway through the week. Last week I wrote the first part of an ongoing blog on embracing your femininity. Today I would like to go in a little different direction by continuing on with a couple of topics that tend to get all lumped in together. I am referring to crossdressing, being transgender and sexuality (your sexual preference.) If there is one thing that annoys me all the time, it is generalizations. And I find, anything about sex gets generalized ~ a lot!! If you like sex, you’re a whore. If you like to cross dress, you must want to be a woman and are gay. Well, I have a different opinion.
(Just a little note – crossdressing, being transgender, and obviously sexuality is not only for one sex. However, for this blog series, I’m tending to focus on the male perspective)
Crossdressing
Ok, I am going to say this first and get it out of the way. Not everyone that crossdresses wants to transition into a woman! There are some, who just like to once in awhile get their girl on. Slipping into a pretty pair of panties or applying make up is thrilling, freeing and relaxing, all in one. For some, yes, they want to be more feminine. They choose to completely crossdress ~ hair, make up, clothes, shoes, lingerie and grooming ~ everything ~ and that is just fine! They do not want to transition into a woman. They don’t want to take hormones. They just want to get their girl on sometimes!
I’m going to summarize statement I heard. I do not know who said it but I think it sums up the next two points nicely. Sexuality is who you are attracted to. Gender is who you are.
Transgender
I am not going to say that I am I an expert on this subject. However, to me, a transgender person, is someone who identifies as the sex they were not born as. This is a part of them. This is just simply who they are ~ it is as much a part of them as their eye color. Although you can wear different color contacts, and others might never know your real color, you really can’t change it. They do not want to just “get their girl on” every so often. They want and I would say need to, live their lives as the gender of which they identify. And frankly, I believe they should ~ and do so in peace.
Sexuality and Being Gay
Well, here’s the hot topic. This is the one category that everyone loves to lump the above two (and a few others) into! Even during the Jenner interview, it couldn’t be avoided. Guess what? Not everyone who crossdresses or who is transgender is gay. And here’s a real shocker to all of you that generalize everything. Not all men who are gay are feminine at all!! I have a personal friend who is gay. And by all standards he is a “man’s man.” – no pun intended. He just happens to prefer relationships with men. (that is what I use as a standard. I enjoy screwing around with women on occasion (with or without a guy) but I have no desire to be in a relationship with one. I do not see myself as even bisexual. I know guys that enjoy anal play. They even like a strap on used on them. Yet, they have no desire to be in a relationship with another man or even play sexually with a guy.
(those of you out there that just love to suck cock and can’t stop thinking about it ~ I’ll talk to you later!!LOL)
I know I have only just scratched the surface of these topics ~ if that. I do think it is good to at least start the conversation. I am definitely going to talk more about it. For now, check back over the weekend for my next part of this series ~ I am going to discuss that pink elephant in the room ~ the cost.
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
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I’m not gay nor am I into guys. I love to wear women’s clothes. Just the soft satin silky fabrics against my skin is so great to resist. Also wearing yoga pants/leggings/bras/panties/slips as well as wearing body con sheath dresses. Can’t forget about perfume/lotions/makeup/lipsticks. Women are the more powerful & fun sex. To have a women catch me wearing her clothes would be what I want and have her make me wear them all the time is what I want as that would show that she has power & control over me.
Great Job ! Thanks so much ! love you line ” get you girl on ” Yes putting on panties, slips and dresses and swishing about can really be fun
Miss Kay,
Very informative as always! Being I’m Sissy it’s a lifestyle to me than about sexuality. Your indeed correct people Do think oh, you must be this/that.
I do hope your expand on this subject some more. It’s indeed a good read and helpful.
xxx
You were referred to me by MS. Cassidy. I have been divorced for 15 years. The following summer I had the greatest sexual weekend of my life. These two la
sorry about that. These two ladies did everything to me including a strap on. This encounter took care of a lot of my fantasies only to create others. This made me fantasize what it will feel like to have the real thing in my mouth or in my sweet ass. I never felt like I was gay. I had been wearing ladies panties, garters and stockings for years. I finally realized how much I enjoyed wearing women’s clothes. I started going out fully dressed to see if I would pass. I even had some men that wanted to go to bed with me but was afraid. I was browsing a x-rated bookstore. I came across an issue of Transformation and I completely read it. I picked up a few more and I knew then I wanted to be a lady like the ones in the magazine. I started with their hormones and after 6 months I had a little puffiness I\on my breasts and my hips became more rounded. I went to see an endricronologist and she started me on progesterone and estrogen. I relocated after a year and started a new job as a woman. By now I was a solid a cup and was pretty much hairless. The money issue started becoming a problem and I needed to find another source of income. I will get into that later. Ms. KayMarie I need help with my eyebrows and eyelashes. I want to be the best shemale I can be. I believe I have mastered a lot of the sexual needs for men. I would love to hear from you.
I think that one of the most beautiful things about sexuality is that there isn’t any hard and fast rules. Not all ‘____’ are ‘____’, whatever that may be. It’s whatever you identify as, what speaks to who you are inside and once you know beyond a doubt, live your life the way you please. Feminization is for everyone and it can mean whatever you want it to. We’re all just people finding ourselves and living our lives. It’s a beautiful thing, Miss KayMarie. =)
Peter ~ My point exactly! Crossdressing, Being Trans and your sexuality are not mutually exclusive. Thank you so much for sharing.
Sonny ~ Thank you!!! Oh yes ~ swishing and sashaying around is oh so much fun!!
Krissy ~ Thank You! I do plan to expand on this topic and even revisit it again.
Rikki ~ Thank you for taking the time to share your story. I truly appreciate it. I will definitely be in contact with you by email. I am so impressed with you! I would love to get together and talk. We can get to work on those brows! (I’m getting mine done today!)
What a great blog Miss Kay Marie! So well laid out and informative! There is so much misunderstanding about the boundaries between cross dressing, sissies, panty boys, homosexuality and being trans-gendered and you’ve done an amazing job in helping to dispel some of those misconceptions! Thank you again for tackling such a touchy subject! <3
Ms Rita ~ Why thank you!! I can honestly say I am enjoying this series. I think all of our cross dressing sissies, panty boys, trans and the like all deserve to be treated like individuals and not lumped into the same group!
I am really enjoying this series, Ms. Kay Marie!
I like a few of the points here in this post that you have made, that I say all the time! First, not all crossdressers want to transition. In fact, my subby hubby Jack wears panties for me, but would not want to take it further than that…except for those naughty school girl nights, lol.
Mostly I agree that every person deserves to be treated with respect!
Thank you!
Ms. Delia
I’m really enjoying this blog series, too. My fiance occasionally wears panties (for him, it’s therapeutic. The first two days after he gets back from the rigs and I have my way with him….er, let’s just say I give his cock and his ass a bit *too* much attention; not that he’s complaining 😉 Panties are much kinder and softer on his overworked anatomy than boxers or briefs–and he loves the way it always makes me smile to see him in them ) However, he has ZERO interest in crossdressing regularly, much less transitioning, and no interest at all in playing sexually with men.
I think it would shock the general population to realize that most crossdressers are NOT GAY, and just because someone is trans doesn’t mean they are either.
Ms Delia ~ Thank you! I have really enjoyed writing this series. I love those naughty school girl nights…. oh you mean for him (wink)
It could not have been said better.Sexuality is who you are attracted to.Gender is who you are.Myself am extremely attracted to women.I do like being submissive -obeying,respecting,listening to a woman I am attracted to and wearing womens clothes, accessories,perfumes and doing some feminine actions as a fantasyThank-you Kay Marie for helping alot of people in life.That has to make you feel great being a positive difference maker with advice that keeps one on the right track financially,physically and emotionally.
Gigi ~ You are more than welcome. I will keep you on track and you will look fabulous as well!