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Ms Kay Marie

Ms Kay Marie

Hi Everyone! Happy Monday! Hope you had a good weekend! Since I have had a reprieve from the weather I have spent the last few days playing catch up.  While running around doing errands and waiting for various appointments I was doing some reading on my phone. It started with one article and soon I found links to related ones. It was the topic that I wanted to share with you. Seems in the light of the new box-office release everyone is talking about kink and BDSM. So of course, I wanted to join in!  This is just an introduction into a topic I plan to explore in more detail but wanted to start the conversation with a few points.

What is it?

Let’s start with the most obvious of questions. Is the  dominance and submission or even the kink portrayed on screen or in books realistic? My personal opinion is yes – but it relative to each of us. What is kinky to one might not be to another. That being said – I will concede to the fact that very few have the resources to afford such an extensive playroom and extravagant lifestyle of your submissive. However, there are some very good points to focus on.

Communication is Key

In any relationship, I can not stress enough the importance of communication. Communicating is vital, as is setting boundaries. I think it is very important to have a clear understanding of what is and isn’t expected of the other (or others – lol) Not everyone will go to the extent of having a fancy legal document. But you need to have a least a conversation or two.  Now, I am open for a lot but even I have had these talks with my partner. My last one knew if I was in a submissive role ~ no gag ball.

Taking That First Leap (or spank – lol)

Now that you have had at least the chance to lay the groundwork ~ let the fun begin. Even if you have never touched a sex toy or you are unsure how to use bondage tape ~  you can do this. And more importantly ~ you WANT TO!!  Know your limits, push them, but not to the point you are no longer enjoying it. Speaking of enjoyment ~ don’t be surprised just how much you do enjoy it!

This is a topic I would like to continue chatting about with you. Please share your thoughts or even your adventures and check back real soon for a follow up.

Hugs,

Ms Kay Marie