Hey, guys, let’s talk today about positive affirmation. It was actually a call (or a few calls) I had with Sissy Chrissy that gave me this idea. We discussed verbal humiliation and what it means. So that left me thinking: is humiliation, as it’s usually conceived of, really humiliating to people who enjoy it?
How Humiliation Works
Let me clue you in on my thought process here, so it’ll make more sense to you. Humiliation is usually considered a negative thing, in the common usage of the word. But in BDSM-type relationships, that’s not necessarily the case. Many people enjoy being humiliated. They like the feeling of being embarrassed and even sometimes, being degraded.
So my question to you guys is: If you enjoy the sensation of being humiliated, does it really “count” as humiliation?
I would argue no, actually. That’s why I prefer to call it positive affirmation instead. If hearing things that some people, out of context, might call humiliation, makes you feel good (albeit embarrassed), then I’d say that’s a good thing, wouldn’t you? And if it’s a good thing, then I think it counts as positive affirmation instead of humiliation.
Positive Affirmation With Sissies
This is especially true with sissies. Many sissies, as a part of their feminization process, like to be reminded of all the ways they fail at being “manly.” In a certain way, this counts as positive affirmation. Why? Because it reinforces their femininity, which, of course, is a positive thing for a sissy!
This also works for other kinds of guys, too. (Sissies are just one of the many types that it applies to.) For instance, cuckolds. A cuckold often likes to be told that his penis doesn’t measure up, that he’s not a real man, and that someone else can fuck his wife much better than he can. But those things don’t serve to tear him down. They serve to lift him up in his identity as a cuckold. So, therefore, I would say they’re positive affirmations, rather than humiliation.
You can see this for all kinds of fetishes where the person enjoys being humiliated. Let’s take cocksuckers as another example. Most men would be appalled to be referred to as a “good little cocksucking bitch.” But not a cocksucker! They’ll positively purr at the praise. Therefore, I’d call it positive affirmation, rather than humiliation.
See, It’s Not Really Humiliating
So you can see where I’m going with this, right? It’s not really humiliating for these guys, at least not in the sense of humiliation being a bad thing. They might feel embarrassed, but they don’t feel torn down. Instead, they feel built up, their identity affirmed through the use of these positive affirmations.
Now, I can understand why a guy would like the use of the word “humiliation.” It’s shocking to people who don’t understand. It’s subversive. It seems to hint at a person being “lesser than.” But just because we like using the word doesn’t mean it’s an accurate description of what we’re talking about. That’s why I think I prefer calling them “positive affirmations.” I’m helping to affirm and validate your identity as a sissy/cuckold/cocksucker/etc. by “humiliating” you.
Okay, so now I’m turning it over to you guys. I’d love to hear what you think about the subject. Do you like the word “humiliation”? Do you agree with its connotations? Would you agree that “positive affirmations” might be a better term for this? I know that there are probably a number of opinions on the subject. And, honestly, I’m looking forward to hearing all of them. I’m half-hoping this blog gets as many comments as the ruined orgasm one, lol. Just kidding, but if you want to leave me a comment, please do! I’d love to see what you have to say. You can also give me a call to let me know what you think.
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
