When you think of a ruined orgasm, what comes to mind for you? There are many different ways to ruin an orgasm, and I’m curious about what your brain jumps to when I mention them.
A Ruined Orgasm Debate With A Caller
The reason I ask is, I had a call the other morning, and a debate started over what exactly a ruined orgasm is. To me, a ruined orgasm is just that–ruined. And by that, I mean, your dream of an orgasm is ruined. You don’t get to cum. You get no relief at all. You start to cum, and I pinch the head of your cock so that you can’t. No cumming at all.
Now, my caller had a different view of a ruined orgasm. He said that he would get to cum, would get some relief. It just wasn’t an earth-shattering orgasm. He basically just stopped stroking it at the point of orgasm, and the cum just dribbled out, disappointingly.
To me, that isn’t exactly a ruined orgasm. It’s just a disappointing one because he does get to cum using that method. The pressure inside is relieved. He just doesn’t have a good orgasm, but it is an orgasm, rather than a ruined one, in my book.
Different Methods Of Orgasm Ruination
So I started looking into it after our call was over. I did a little research and learned that there are many different ways to ruin a man’s orgasm. Some of them create a true ruined orgasm, while others just create a disappointing one. They’re technically called full and partial ruined orgasms.
Basically, my caller and I were differing in our orgasm ruination techniques. The method he was using is called abandoning. The one I like, which is smacking or pinching the head of the cock to prevent the orgasm from happening at all, is called scrunching or squelching. You learn something new every day!
But still, I maintain that a partial ruined orgasm, like my caller was describing, isn’t really a ruined orgasm. I prefer fully ruining them because the victim gets absolutely no release or relief whatsoever. And that’s what ruined orgasms mean to me.
Am I A Mean Mistress Now?
Anyway, my call with that guy and the ensuing research I did on the subject got me wondering: What do you guys consider a ruined orgasm? Is it sort of like those who think tease and delay is the same as tease and denial, provided the “delay” part goes on long enough? Am I in the minority here? Have I finally found the one thing that would make me count as a mean Mistress? LOL!
I mean, the truth is, my version of a ruined orgasm does include a little CBT. The squeeze (or the spanking) that you get from me in order to ruin your orgasm can be rather painful, especially since your cock is going to be extremely sensitive at that point.
What do you think? Have I earned my mean Mistress street cred here, or am I just a little strict about the definition of a ruined orgasm? And what’s your opinion on full and partial ruined orgasms? Do you consider both of them a “real” ruined orgasm or no? Drop me a comment or give me a call to tell me what you think. I would love to hear it because I am genuinely curious as to whether I’m in the minority here!
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
Interesting take on ruined orgasm! Yes you are mean and WE LOVE IT!
But now, Ms KayMarie we need to hear your take on Ruined vs Denied orgasm!
Come on readers, chime in don’t you want to hear MORE from the Mistress of MORE? I know I DO!
Not that my opinion will count for much here, and if I were smart I would whole heartedly agree with Ms KayMarie. But….
I thing both abandoned and interdicted orgasm count as ruined orgasms. For example if under instructions to stroke and stroke and not cum and I “go too far” I consider it ruined. It has happend where hand comes off, cock twitches, deep breaths, and a full 5 – 10 seconds later, the dribble comes. I considered it ruined and suffer the consequences. So, I think partial or full ruin is a good way to break that down.
For your tease and delay or tease and deny, I agree with you completely. Denied is denied, delayed is not denied regardless of how long.
And yes, you are mean, but in the best way possible and we love you for it.
Hi Mistress Kay!
Heretofore, I have admittedly considered what You call an abandoned orgasm a ruined orgasm. Generally, in My practice as a mean Mistress, there are just different methods of ruining an orgasm, and that’s just one.
I think I justify it with the thinking that what a desperate, edging stroker wants is a full-on ball draining, and anything less than that is going to be delicious agony. Therefore, he’ll consider his orgasm ruined, even if he still technically got to dribble.
It’s like a wedding cake–expensive, beautiful, anticipated, and usually considered by the couple to be an essential element of a successful reception.
Now, take that cake and throw it on the floor. I mean, there are parts of it that aren’t in direct contact with the floor that are still probably okay to eat, and will still probably taste good, but most brides would still consider the cake ruined.
However, I think I’ll take Your ruined orgasm philosophy under advisement, and get even more restrictive in My own ruined orgasm sessions! I’ll be sure to tell subbies they have You to thank for it, too! *giggle*