Mistress Kay Marie can help you with your feminine wardrobe
Hi Everyone! What is the difference between cleaning out your feminine wardrobe and purging? All sissies, crossdressers and trans should clean out their feminine wardrobe about twice a year. I like to suggest this before the spring/summer seasons and again before the fall/winter seasons. But before we get into what you should keep or get rid of, let’s first look at the difference between cleaning out your feminine wardrobe and purging.
What does it mean to purge your feminine wardrobe?
Just like the term implies, purging your feminine wardrobe means to get rid of everything. It’s that simple! I know many of my feminine friends, whether they call themselves a crossdresser, a sissy or transgender have at some point purged at least once. Most of the time this is done to get away from their feminine lifestyle. It is often out of fear, shame or this misguided belief of “out of sight out of mind”. Regardless of the reason, it is not something I think is ever a good thing.
Why is cleaning out your feminine wardrobe a good thing?
The first reason cleaning out your feminine wardrobe is a good thing is it makes room for more stuff! It doesn’t matter if you live a fem lifestyle openly or are an undercover sissy, we all are limited in space. We all need to go through our things and declutter. Now I am not going to say, hold each item and ask if it brings you joy or anything like that. If you haven’t worn something in a season or two, if it no longer fits, if it’s not your style, if it’s stained & old (unless it’s your lucky shirt or fav pair of jeans ~ I will have mind until I die) or you can’t remember what you were thinking when you bought it (yes, we have all been there), get rid of it. I know for some who have purged in the past this can be very hard to do. However, I assure you, this is a good thing and is not feminine clothes purging.
What do you do once you have cleared out your feminine wardrobe?
Before you go rushing out to the closest store or start ordering online, I want you to look at what you have. Do you need pieces to complete outfits? Maybe you realized you have way too many short black skirts but nothing red. We all tend to buy a favorite style over & over (for me it’s black leggings) but not enough things to go with them. I live in a part of the country that has seasons, so that means we have overlapping seasons. How you dress in the morning might not work for the afternoon. With this in mind, I often have pieces I can wear several different ways and layers. Really take a look at what you have. It will give you an idea of what you need. But keep in mind what you got rid of, so you know the pieces you wore a lot and the ones that still had the tags on.
Now ~ you can go shopping!! Enjoy!! (and let me know if you find any good sales!)
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms. Kay Marie
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Ah, purging. A perennial problem amongst Our gurls who are enchanted with all things en femme! With the right encouragement, W/e can nip it in the bud, and then they can become the fashion-conscious gurls like the ones You describe, who only get rid of things so that they can stay on top of trends and seasons!
I love this post, Ms. Kay Marie! And you clearly make a very important distinction between the two, which very clearly exists. My focus went right to the point you made about purging never being a good thing…I could not agree more! And honestly (and sometimes I wish it were not true), I think out of sight out of mind rarely works with most things. I have yet to meet one crossdresser who has purged most if not all of her pretty things and never dressed again! But like you said, Ms. Kay Marie, getting rid of those items which just don’t serve you well (or perhaps never did) anymore, IS most definitely a good thing!! 🙂
For me, the difference between purging and a simple house cleaning is all about motives. I have only purged once, and that was nearly 30 years ago. Fortunately, I have been able to replace all of the items I had purged with even more fabulous clothes, (with a sublimely magnificent pair of shocking fuschia pink patent ankle strap 5 1/2″ pumps being the exception. Heavy sigh).
The motive for my purge was, as you said, a desire to step back from my feminine side. In reality, my fears back then were limiting my willingness to seek out more experiences as a sissy, which had relegated my experiences then to be rather repetitive and tiresome.
After I replaced everything I had purged, I said I’d never to do it again, and vowed to apply my energies to becoming all the sissyfag I ever fantasized about. Thankfully, that joyous journey continues with enthusiasm in my life. Now the only time I toss anything is if it no longer fits, doesn’t look good on me, or I get a run in my stockings.